SELF-CARE (putting YOU first)

How many times have you told someone "No", plainly, without strings attached or without trying to sugar coat it? How many times have you confronted someone for telling you lies or stabbing you at the back? How many times have you stood up for yourself and put someone in their places?

If never. Then let me Introduce you to Self-care

Self care in my own words is knowing when to say "No", when to let go, and when to walk away from anything and anyone that is playing with your peace of mind.

Honestly, it's a lot easier than done, but it's way better than carrying that load on your shoulders that screams what if? Or maybe? What if I had spoken up? What if I had confronted them? What if I had said no?

I know many believe that silence is the best answer for a fool, but in most cases silence makes you the fool.

You need to stop.

Stop doing things just because and start doing things because you want to. Stop pleasing people just so they can accept you, honestly if they don't appreciate you at your worst they don't deserve you at your best.

Stop displeasing yourself to please people who treat you like an option instead of a priority, stop going miles for people who wouldn't take steps for you. Stop making sacrifices for people who cannot value it.

    Stop giving your all to takers and not receivers. Stop wasting your energy on people who could care less about you, forget the vibes,  forget the connection, if they can't treat you like a priority  leave them like an option. 

  Sometimes letting go is better than hanging on, Not every princess is your Cinderella and not every prince is your knight in shining armor, You are NOT overreacting,  you are NOT being selfish,  you are putting yourself first, it's not called selfishness  or greediness,  it's called SELF-CARE.

 Sometimes you need to realize that you are the one disrespecting yourself. Stop throwing  yourself at people who won't catch you,  don't fall for people who won't  help you up. Stop asking for attention from someone who refuses to acknowledge  you!  The right person is one step away from you,  and YOU are the barricade because you REFUSE to let go! 

I remember when I felt like I couldn't  live without people, now, I don't even want people  around, I decided to stop knocking on their doors and guess what? They tried peeping into mine! 

  When you stay away from certain people,  who felt you couldn't  live without them, It makes them realise the fact that they are indispensable, but when you continue calling, texting, sending SMS' and all that,  they'll use you as cruise. 

Make that decision now,  to let go of all that weight,  and embrace peace..